‘Wild ex supplied my dad night time of intercourse for £250 and bonked the groom at a marriage’

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Done a runner

My ex-girlfriend offered my Dad a full night of sex for £250. She sold a precious family heirloom just hours after I gave it to her and insulted my Mum by suggesting she start weight loss jabs.

Now she’s run out on me and left me looking a fool.

I know I should tell family and friends that I’m newly single, but I dread being a laughing stock.

The truth is that my girl has gone off with someone else – and taken everything with her. There’s not a stick of furniture, gadget or piece of linen left in this flat. She and I moved in together in 2022. Now a neighbour has revealed that a removal van pulled up here the other morning (while I was at work) and took everything. Over half of that stuff was mine.

My girl is ignoring my calls, and I can only conclude that she is never coming back. Everyone told me not to trust her.

Last summer I booked a luxury lodge by a lake so that we could all spend some time together. I’m a good cook and manned the barbecue while my girl served drinks and sunbathed. But even that didn’t work out. At the end of the break my father took me to one side and claimed she’d made a pass at him and offered him sex in return for hard cash. I told him not to be so stupid, and we had a terrible row. He and I haven’t really spoken properly since.

In addition, my mates have never forgiven my ex for getting off with the groom at my best mate’s sister’s wedding. Of course, I now feel idiotic for failing to see through her. She was never nice or true.

How could I have been such a gullible mug?

JANE SAYS: It’s heartbreaking that you put your trust in your ex-girlfriend. She certainly sounds like an attention seeker and a live wire.

Sadly, you’re not the first person to be seduced and conned by a smooth operator – and you won’t certainly be the last. I understand that you’re feeling humiliated and probably a little foolish right now but hiding the truth from the people who care about you isn’t an option. You’ve got to find the courage to tell your parents that you need their help. Never forget that they love you and care about you.

Maybe you will have to admit that they were right, and you were wrong, but what does that matter now? The important thing is that you start the long climb back up from the bottom again. The furniture and gadgets may have gone, but you’ve still got your health and your spirit. Your best form of revenge is getting right back in the saddle and starting again.

Take the time to apologise to your parents. Then, with their support, think about reporting this crime (because it is a crime) to the police so that they can hopefully track this individual down and stop her from fleecing anyone else in future. She might consider herself above normal rules and conventions, but she had no right to steal your stuff and disrespect you.

Payment time

I’ve been robbed by my brother. Three years ago, our grandfather died. His flat was sold and his stuff divided up. I was abroad. I assumed our parents inherited everything. Only I’ve just discovered that my brother was supposed to pass £5,000 on to me, only he never did. My parents trusted him to give me my inheritance, but he spent it on a holiday. My sister recently got drunk and told me everything.

My brother is actively avoiding me. How dare he?

JANE SAYS: I suggest you write your brother a letter laying out your case. Explain that you’ve been told the full story and would like to know how he plans to pay back the £5,000 he owes you. He was trusted to do the right thing. What is he going to do about it? What action is he prepared to take to right this wrong? Can he sell something? Take out a loan?

Sadly, if he chooses not to reply or offer to start to pay you back, then you’ll have to check out the Citizen’s Advice Bureau or a local solicitor. Sadly, wills are often at the heart of family feuds. Is this something you can forget or are you determined to pursue your selfish bro even if it means additional expense and not having any kind of relationship with him in future?

Vile pair

My new husband acts like he owns me.

He doesn’t ask me what we’re eating or where we’re going, he tells me. He expects sex on tap and hits the roof if I dare to stick up for myself. I don’t have a penny to my name yet; the other day he ordered me to take his revolting mother to the seaside for the day because she was bored. In any other circumstance, I’d be happy to help out, but his attitude can be so demanding. Sadly, his mother thinks she can order me around too. She’s told me that she expects at least four grandchildren. How dare she?

JANE SAYS: Get out of that toxic environment as fast as your legs will carry you. Put this new marriage down to experience and run. Your new husband and his mother believe they can treat you any way they like. They are arrogant and demanding. Maybe your husband deliberately targeted you precisely because you are broke?

Could it be that, in his calculating mind, a lack of funds makes you easier to manipulate? Talk to him today and tell him that you won’t go on like this. Then get the support of family and friends who genuinely care about you.

Jog on

A desperate ex-lover won’t leave me alone. We had an alcohol-fuelled, sex-based affair last year.

Now his marriage has collapsed and he’s making a nuisance of himself by begging me to have him back. All I see is a pathetic wreck. How do I stop him being a nuisance? He simply won’t accept that I have someone else and have moved on.

JANE SAYS: Insist this man leaves you alone and warn him that you will take this further if he doesn’t. Sadly, if he doesn’t back off, then you may be forced to report him to the police for harassment. Make a note of everything that has happened so far and don’t allow yourself to be worn down. You don’t owe him a thing, and he needs to start understanding that.