‘Sleazy landlord is watching me romp with unusual girls – however the lease is affordable’

JUST JANE: Today our agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a Daily Star reader who is struggling with a moral dilemma. Should he chose honesty over cash in pocket?

My new girl and I have great sex at her place. But she’s puzzled why I never invite her back to mine. The problem is that my landlord is a Peeping Tom.

He gets off on watching, and listening in, to couples making love. I live in a rented house with four other fellas, and we all joke about him drilling spy holes in the walls and hiding microphones under our beds.

Before I met my girl, I was hooked on drunken, one-night-stands with strangers, I didn’t care about my kinky landlord. But it’s a different matter now. The problem is that I pay a very reasonable rent. Sometimes he lets me off paying altogether.

I wouldn’t wish to expose my girl to him but getting a good deal is important.

What’s my next move?

JANE SAYS: You can’t stay in a property where you’re being spied on and manipulated. No amount of discount is worth that level of intrusion.

This voyeuristic creep needs to be reported. If no one has consented to him watching, then he’s committed a sexual offense.

If he’s filmed you or a previous lover in secret, then that’s a very serious matter. Summon up the courage to speak out. Talk to a trusted relative and be scrupulously honest.

This creature needs to be exposed and stopped. You’re the victim here and you must not feel ashamed for taking a stand.

Tell your girl the truth. Your next move needs to be OUT of that hellhole.

Fancy that

My ex-son-in-law keeps popping round.

He craves food, warmth, and a chat. He opens my fridge and helps himself to anything he can find. He sits in front of my telly all afternoon and has even asked me for cash. My daughter (his ex) thinks he’s working for a mate, but I don’t think he does anything.

A few days ago he got a bit fresh and started talking about sex. He said he regretted not having kids with my daughter.

I got the distinct impression he fancied sex with ME. I asked him to leave. I live in dread of him coming around again. This is awkward.

JANE SAYS: Don’t open the door to him. If he dares to visit again, then warn him that you will contact the police. Make it clear that you will not be used or harassed.

I understand that you’re in a very awkward position because you love your daughter and don’t want her feeling embarrassed or hurt.

But he needs to know that you’re serious about protecting your family and own self. What part of EX-son-in-law doesn’t he get? You owe him nothing. If he’s lonely and broke, then that’s his look out.

Pastures new

My partner has moved in with another woman. She says she’s found her soul mate. Our relationship is over and she’s ordered me to leave her alone. She’s taken all her stuff and sent me cash to cover outstanding bills.

How can she stand to be so cruel when I’ve been left totally humiliated?

JANE SAYS: Your ex-partner has found someone new. Her head and heart are elsewhere. Understandably you’re hurt and confused, but I urge you to back off and give her space. If she is requesting you leave her alone, then comply.

Sometimes relationships end and we don’t know why but you need to start thinking about yourself, your happiness, and your future. You loved her once, but now she’s a part of your past.

JUST JANE by Jane O’Gorman

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