Inside wild swingers’ cruises as couple reveal 5 issues that shocked them most

A married couple of ‘passion advocates’ who promote the swinging lifestyle have shared their experiences on a raunchy adults-only cruise – and it’s far from what you’d expect

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High school sweethearts Bella and Jase worry that lots of us get the wrong idea about adults-only cruises for couples who enjoy partner swapping.

So the saucy married duo, who’ve been swinging for over a decade, have shared their experiences on their first raunchy cruise, aiming to clear up the five biggest misconceptions about these voyages.

Rather than a “nasty disgusting cesspool of horrendous people”, holidaymakers can expect to find a “kind” and “respectful” atmosphere. You can “walk around by yourself in almost nothing and still feel safe”. Even the staff, they claim, are having a great time and are often “in the lifestyle“.

Bella and Jase took their debut swingers cruise last year and kept their thousands of social media followers updated on every aspect of the holiday, reports LADbible. The couple shared tips on what to pack and posted videos of the ship’s “playrooms”.

The couple started dating in 2007 and began exploring swinging seven years later. They describe themselves today as “passion advocates”.

But they reckon it’s an uphill battle to get people to understand what consensual non-monogamy involves, as many of us jump to all the wrong conclusions.

So Bella has explained the five things that “surprised” her the most about going on the cruise for partner-swappers. In an Instagram post she said that people wrongly expect a “nasty disgusting cesspool of horrendous people doing the most unimaginable immoral activities”.

“When that’s obviously not the case,” she writes. “Consent, respect, communication, and safety is ALWAYS the basis of these spicy communities. Maybe society is so used to the opposite that when they see something like this, they automatically assume the worst.”

She explains that swingers can feel “safe, free, and liberated to be themselves” on these adults-only cruises. “No one is forcing anyone” to go on one if they don’t want to, she adds.

The first wrong idea she tackles is that the ships aren’t full of “vultures” who are “trying to sleep with you”. Instead there’s a “kind, respectful, and not pushy” atmosphere.

“The vibe is nothing like a normal nightclub/bar or general dating scene,” she says. “You can walk around by yourself in almost nothing and still feel safe, supported, and not objectified. As a woman, this was wild to me!”

And it’s not constant rumpy-pumpy, either. “You spend most of your time hanging out with your partner and conversing with super nice and interesting people.”

While people pity the crew on these cruises, Bella claims the staff “enjoy” their trips with swingers.

“Cruise staff are told exactly what kind of cruise it is and have the option to work guest-facing or behind the scenes/operational areas,” she says. “Play areas are blocked off for guests and specifically hired charter staff only, who apply to work it and are oftentimes also in the lifestyle! Since the guests are generally more friendly, fun, clean, and generous, these charters are known to be enjoyable for the staff.”

But staff “strictly enforce” the cruise rules, while passengers are “hyper-aware, responsible, and respectful” of each other’s boundaries.

“You’ll see more clear communication and safe behaviour here than in normal nightlife or dating environments and staff [are] very strict about the rules to ensure guests feel safe and comfortable,” she says.

Bella also claims that the playrooms aren’t “crazy free-for-alls” as people also go in just for fun.

“Most beds are occupied just by one couple and you don’t have to swap or participate to enjoy the play areas. Many go just for the environment, energy, and intimacy. You will see some wild group activity but it’s not the majority!”

And lastly, Bella says that these trips are more “about connection than the spicy parts”. “You leave feeling more connected to your partner than ever, with a deeper sense of closeness and understanding *and* bonded with incredible new friends,” she says.

“The dinners, conversations, laughs, and intimate shared moments end up being the best part of the entire trip! The spicy parts are fun too though.”

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