Wife ‘pushed to suicide by husband’ wrote in diary ‘the extra I struggle again, the extra he enjoys it’, court docket hears

A BUSINESSMAN accused of driving his wife to suicide got progressively rougher during sex with her and enjoyed it when she fought back, a court heard. 

Christopher Trybus, 43, slowly moved the ‘line’ of acceptable behaviour before he ‘blew up’ one day, his wife Tarryn Baird wrote in her diary. 

Trybus is on trial accused of manslaughter and of waging ‘extensive and escalating controlling, coercive and manipulative behaviour including sexual violence of two rapes’ towards Ms Baird, 34.

In an unprecedented case, prosecutors say Trybus ‘is legally responsible’ for his wife’s death due to the ‘tsunami’ of abuse even though he was away when she was found hanged in the garage of their Swindon home on November 28, 2017.

He denies the charges. 

On Monday jurors were read entries from her diary in which she said the abuse ‘started slowly over the years’.

Something was ‘unleashed’, she wrote, after Trybus put his hands around her neck during sex.

Christopher Trybus arriving at Winchester Crown Court where he is on trial for manslaughter

Tarryn Baird, 34 (pictured) was found at her home in Swindon, Wiltshire, in  November 2017

Reading out Ms Baird’s diary entries to Winchester Crown Court, Hants, on Monday prosecutor Tom Little said in one from early 2016 she wrote: ‘I will never forget the day it all overflowed and he blew up.’

She added: ‘It started slowly over the years without me even knowing it, then progressed’.

Ms Baird said: ‘The line keeps moving.

‘The line has been crossed.

‘It has almost become the new norm.’

She described feeling his hands around her neck during sex one night, and after this she felt something was ‘unleashed’.

Ms Baird continued: ‘Progressively sex got rougher and the more I fight back, the more he enjoys it.

‘It’s like there was this side of him hidden all these years.’

On another date, she wrote: ‘Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, nobody knows what goes on in my head.

‘Every day is a struggle fighting this darkness and loneliness.’

Another entry said: ‘I have been thinking about things like all the years Mum and I fought and how ugly they got, then she had her affair and lied about it and made us all think we were crazy.’

The court has previously heard that Trybus threatened to reveal private information about Ms Baird’s family.

Mr Little also said that in May 2017, Ms Baird Googled the phrase ‘throat pain after strangulation’.

Dorset Police worker Rosemary Latham told the court messages between Ms Baird and her friend were found on the friend’s phone, but they were missing on Ms Baird’s phone.

One of these messages included Ms Baird asking her friend in early 2017 ‘if it ever comes up, please say I was with you today’.

Ms Baird worked for Trybus’s company from home, doing his administration and accounts.

He has insisted he ‘loved and cherished’ his wife telling lawyers her purported domestic abuse injuries were from ‘kinky bondage’ and consensual ‘rough sex’.

His lawyers have suggested Ms Baird had ‘mental health problems’ and her suicide was a ‘cry for help that went tragically wrong’.

The trial continues.