‘I’m determined to get bonked by sexy strangers at intercourse celebration however worry dropping my man’

Dear Jane,

Horny strangers

For as long as I can remember I’ve fantasised about going to a sex party and being ravished by horny strangers. Over the years I’ve mentioned this idea to various partners but never found anyone on my wavelength.

My last boyfriend wouldn’t even have sex with the lights on, let alone agree to a threesome.

Now I’ve been online and found a posh sex party that is taking place before Christmas. Dare I treat my new boyfriend to a couple of tickets?

Should I be bold, order the tickets and make my dreams come true?

JANE SAYS: You need to talk to your new boyfriend before spending a penny. Has he ever expressed an interest in group sex? Might your juicy tickets freak him out?

Be honest; tell him that you’ve always fancied pushing back the boundaries. Is he interested in joining in?

As for the party itself, you need to check it out.

Is it legitimate? Is it a con?

You might spend a lot of money on tickets and come away disappointed. There are no guarantees that you’ll have a satisfying time. You’re an adult and if you want to get involved in group sex, then that’s fine. You need to do your research; find some like-minded people and find your comfort zone. I do, however, urge you to take care of your personal safety and to always practice safe sex by insisting on condoms.

Selfish pleasure

My sister has confessed that her husband still demands sex every night. This is despite the fact that they’ve been together for 15 years and she works very long hours.

He doesn’t just like ‘vanilla’ sex either. Apparently, he has a wild and voracious appetite and expects their sessions to last at least two hours at a time.

I feel so sorry for her. My brother-in-law thinks I’m his mate, but I can no longer look him in the eye. How dare he take advantage and use her for his selfish pleasure when she’s exhausted and feels used?

JANE SAYS: You need to be very careful about becoming personally involved and taking sides because you have no way of knowing how their relationship works.

Direct intervention or accusations could lead to (your) alienation. Encourage your sister to level with her husband away from the bedroom.

She needs to explain that she is no longer enjoying their regular sex life and that a new way forward needs to be found. Whether that involves a sex contract i.e., several times each month, or separate beds, is up to them.

Would it help your sister to speak to her GP. Only she can decide whether she stays or goes.

Flattered and confused

My mate’s outrageous girlfriend offered me sex during a recent party. She lent in and whispered: “I fancy you. I’ve found an empty bedroom. How about it?”

I laughed it off. But since then, she’s been sending me X-rated texts. I’m both flattered and confused. Why me?

Must I tell him the truth?

JANE SAYS: Make it clear that you’re not interested and insist she leaves you alone. She could be testing you or deliberately going out of her way to make trouble.

If you’d feel more comfortable telling your mate and bringing this matter out into the open, then that’s up to you. You cannot allow yourself to be compromised or embarrassed. I suggest you steer clear of this person again in future.

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