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Big buzz
I’m being stalked by two women at work – and wish they would leave me alone. Both have made it clear that they fancy me. They’re always saying how good-looking and sexy I am.
I find them intimidating and a bit scary. They make filthy comments; they grab my bum and fantasise about what I’m like in bed.
Recently, they dragged me out for a drink. One of them had a new sex toy.
She got it out and started buzzing it against my leg. Other colleagues were watching.
I was mortified. People have told me that they’re sad and lonely outside of work, so I should be nice to them, but how is it funny to pick on me?
JANE SAYS: This behaviour isn’t funny or acceptable.
You turn up at work to do your job and earn your pay. You shouldn’t have to put up with anyone intimidating, annoying or bullying you. These women must understand that this is not a joke.
I suggest you go straight to your boss, your union rep or someone in HR and explain that you’ve had enough. You’ve got witnesses to the fact that you’re being harassed, and you want something done about it.
Explain that you insist on being taken seriously. Don’t, for one minute, think that any of this is your fault because these women are bang out of order.
Leave me alone
I’ve fancied a friend of my brother’s for ages but three times now he’s turned me down.
In April I plucked up the courage to ask him out.
I’d got some tickets for a concert, but he said ‘no’. A couple of days later I suggested a pub lunch, again he said: “I’m busy”. Last week I bumped into him in town.
Again, I mentioned ‘that drink’ and he nearly bit my head off. He said he wasn’t interested in spending any time with me – ever. We have so much in common.
I suspect that he’s as lonely as I am. How do I get him to give me a chance?
JANE SAYS: You must let this go. Three times now this guy has explained that he’s not interested in you. Get over him before he starts accusing you of harassing him.
Accept that he’s not in the market for a relationship with you. He could be in love with someone else or simply taking a break from dating due to personal or professional pressures.
Look for love away from your usual haunts and pals. Are there any hobbies or interests that you could take up to widen your circle?
What about volunteering?