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Sexy soiree
My fella won’t accept that our sexual bubble has burst. I’m done with group sex, swinging and orgies.
He has always been obsessed with watching me having sex with other people.
Since 2024 he’s organised four house parties, which featured me sleeping with both male and female lovers while he filmed.
Now he’s talking about yet another sexy soiree and I’m done. I enjoyed his games the first couple of times around. I found it horny performing for the camera and felt naughty and rude.
But now it feels forced and stale. Been there, done that. The new guests he wants to invite over don’t excite me or turn me on. I’ve told him to count me out, but he thinks he can wear me down by keeping on.
The other night he took me for an amazing meal.
I could tell I was being softened up.
I counted and he asked me a dozen times to reconsider and make him happy. In the end I grabbed my bag, hailed a taxi and went round to my mate’s flat for two nights. He was furious.
Now his moods swing between a massive charm offensive and having a go at me.
Apparently, I’m selfish and have become boring.
A neighbour has warned me that he’s gone ahead and organised the next party for July 4th, his birthday. Clearly, he feels he’ll be able to win me round by then.
But why should I have to perform like a trained monkey when I don’t want to? Why doesn’t he respect my position when I’ve done so much for him over the years?
JANE SAYS: You’re in a partnership and your guy has to see things from your point of view. He must understand that you previously went the extra mile, in order to make all of his dreams come true, but that doesn’t mean that you’re obliged to do it all again…
Your man has enjoyed fabulous experiences in the past. Those previous four sex parties fulfilled all of his sexual fantasises and now he’s gagging for a re-run, but that’s not your problem.
If you’re not interested in playing any more games, then you’re fully entitled to walk away without a backward glance. You mustn’t feel pressurised, responsible or guilty in any way.
He’s got to understand that you’ve moved on; you’ve matured and re-set and that there won’t be a repeat performance, because you don’t want it. End of.
Sit him down and explain how much his nagging is beginning to insult and irritate you.
Make it clear that if he goes ahead and holds his party on July 4th then you won’t be in attendance.
You’ll ensure that you’re miles away and that it’ll be up to him to completely clean the property from top to toe before you return.
Ultimately, how comfortable do you now feel about him swinging with other people? What about your sexual health? Has this relationship run its course? I suspect so…
Princess Picky
My girlfriend was supposed to move in with me last March, but she’s still not bought her stuff over. One minute she says that her parents don’t approve of me, the next that my flat is too far from her job.
She’s paying half the bills but not spending any time here. Her friend says she’s too much of a princess to ever leave home.
JANE SAYS: Leaving home is a big step. If your girl isn’t ready to split from her parents, then she’s got to start being honest and upfront about that.
She needs to understand that it was never your intention to live in this property on your own.
Unless she commits by a certain date, then you’ll have to think about getting a lodger and re-thinking this whole relationship.