‘I bonk my boyfriend each night time but it surely provides me the ick when he sleeps along with his teddy’

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Bear faced cheek

My boyfriend still takes his teddy to bed. We’ve just moved in together and I’m feeling put out.

Every night we have sex (which is fantastic). Then we shower together before saying: “Night night”. At this point my guy turns away from me, sticks his thumb in his mouth and nuzzles up with Mr. Snuggles. I’m left seething.

No bedtime cuddles for me. I think this childhood habit is pathetic and creepy. Don’t you agree? He’s 32 and I stopped sleeping with soft toys at ten. Yet anytime I criticise him he covers the bear’s ears and tells me not to be so cruel. I feel stuffed.

JANE SAYS: Each to their own.

I suppose if your guy draws love, comfort and good mental health from his floppy pal, then that’s his business. But he needs to understand that you need cherishing too. Can a compromise be found? Will he agree to cuddles with you until you fall asleep?

Can Mr. Snuggles be placed in a separate, safe space only to be hugged when you’re elsewhere, such as at work or visiting friends or family?

Ultimately, only you can decide if this habit is a relationship breaker. Plenty of adults have cuddly toys and I make no judgement.

Money talks

My girlfriend is obsessed with making money.

If she’s not boasting about how much she’s bringing in, then she’s online checking her investments and savings.

Admittedly she’s a very hard worker, who deserves every penny she makes, but it’s her attitude that annoys me. The problem is that she prioritises making money over everything else.

She thinks nothing of dropping me at a minute’s notice if there is an extra pound to be had. She works on commission for a very demanding boss. In the years we’ve been together she’s failed to show at numerous family parties and weddings because of her work. She makes no bones about the fact that her commission is everything and if there is the slightest chance that she’s going to miss out on a payout then I’m dumped faster than a snotty tissue.

A few months back her sister begged her to accompany her to the GP. The sister was worried about a nasty rash. My girl said ‘no’ because she wasn’t prepared to leave work early. In the end I took the afternoon off work and did the honours. But how was it my place to support her family members?

I’m a self-employed tradesman.

If I even hint that a contract might be coming my way, then my girl on at me 24/7 until I get it. She puts me under huge pressure. When we sit and eat all she talks about are figures and profit projections.

On the beach she studies spreadsheets and works out future earnings. It’s boring. If I’m completely honest, I’d like her to shut and up, change the record and live in the moment. How do I make that happen?

JANE SAYS: There’s a lot to be said for making hay while the sun shines. Your girl is clearly flying high at the moment, and her success defines and satisfies her.

I suspect that her earnings also make your girlfriend feel safe and secure. They give her freedom and options, and she enjoys the cut and thrust of the business world.

If she experienced a disadvantaged childhood; if her parents struggled to pay the bills and income was a problem, then no one could blame her for making her own luck now. It’s a situation that I’m sure a lot of people can identify with. But I do agree with you when you say that money can’t be the be-all-and-end-all of a relationship, because family, friends and enjoyable experiences are important too. I suggest you pick your moment and suggest a little more balance in your lives. Point out that being solvent is important to you too, but you can’t keep up this pace forever. Can she be more subtle? At some time in the future, you will both have to accept that you need to slow down and start smelling the flowers.

Why don’t you see if she’ll agree to some set working hours with the promise that time will always be made available for family events or needy friends. If she says ‘no’ then there’s not much you can do about her working practices, but you certainly don’t have to flog yourself to death. Be aware of your health and your own limitations.

Get my goat

I’m desperate to start a family, however my partner says she’d rather have animals. She’s talking chickens, dogs, cats and a couple of goats.

She reckons animals are cheaper, don’t answer back and her sister can look after any we get when we go on holiday. We’ve been together since we were 19.

I always simply assumed that we’d have children one day. It never crossed my mind that my girl would try and talk me out of it. I love her, but this single subject is really making me question the nature of our relationship.

We talk about it all the time.

JANE SAYS: Your girl needs to understand that you have a real need to be a father. If you were to miss your chance of fatherhood, then you could end up very bitter and resentful – or even depressed.

The fact is that we’re all different and long for different things in life. If she has no maternal instinct and absolutely no desire to be a mum, then maybe you need to accept that you and she are pointing in different directions and you’re not so well suited after all.

None of this makes you right and her wrong; you just need to find a compromise.

Keep talking. Just because you’ve been together for a long time doesn’t mean you’re destined to be together forever.

Child star

My partner is determined to turn our son into a superstar. Our 13-year-old is his project. From acting classes to running and tennis, he wants him to be a world-beater. Only our boy doesn’t want to go to any more extracurricular activities or enter competitions. He wants to concentrate on school and his mates.

My partner is furious.

JANE SAYS: No human being can be viewed as a project. Your son is growing up and entitled to his own opinion.

I suggest you step in and support your boy, because he’s vulnerable and anxious. I’m sure that your partner has only ever wanted the best for your son, but enough is enough. Explain that this is the next stage and he also needs to grow up – and let it all go.