‘I am unable to cease bonking my filthy sister-in-law – she lathers me in whipped cream’

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Hot chocolate

I’m shagging my filthy sister-in-law – and loving it.

She and I are involved in a secret, sexual affair.

My brother has always been a liar and a cheat, and my sister-in-law has turned to me for comfort. We meet for sex a couple of times a week in a local motel. We take our own plastic sheets and fresh towels.

She loves to smear me with whipped cream, while I like to rub melted chocolate into her bottom. Lets just say that our shower times are fun too!

Our encounters are urgent, exciting and highly charged. The sex is just fantastic, but, in my darkest hours I feel guilty and confused.

I’m suffering from divided loyalties. Yes, I’m curious to see how things could be with her because I’ve always fancied and been obsessed with her.

But I’m also in a long-term relationship with my girlfriend and feel guilty about my brother too.

Yes, he’s a cheat too, but his latest love interest is away from the family – whereas mine is right on his doorstep. Am I terrible person?

JANE SAYS: Don’t even think about taking things further with your sister-in-law – that would be totally inappropriate and dangerous.

Your partner and brother need to be able to trust you. If you don’t feel that you can behave yourself in her company, then tell her that the motel trysts must end right now.

I understand that she is feeling lost and upset – and that you feel sorry for her – but you can’t be anything more than a shoulder to cry on.

Tell her today that you’re happy to support and help her on a practical level, but your life is with your partner, and you can’t – and won’t – let her down.

With regard to her relationship problems with your brother: she needs to make it clear to him that he can’t have his cake and eat it too.

Who is he loyal to? Her or his other lover? If he tells her that he can’t make up his mind, then they need some time apart while they both have a serious think about the future.

They’re swapping lovers

My ex-wife is a terrible influence on our teenage daughter. My ex has always been selfish and vain. Now our daughter is 18-years of age, and I hear that they’ve started double-dating and even swapping boyfriends.

I’m disgusted. My daughter is currently seeing a creep my ex briefly hung out with last year. I didn’t like him then and I certainly don’t like him now.

When I tell my daughter that I object to the way she’s living, she laughs and says that she’s just having fun. But her mother should know better. Apparently, she’s now with a 22-year-old stripper.

This is too all too tacky to be true. But my ex is not a woman I can reason with. We split when I discovered she’d spend all my savings on plastic surgery.

JANE SAYS: Your daughter may be a young adult, but she doesn’t know everything. She must understand that you’re worried about her.

Her mother may not have the sense she was born with, but you can see how tasteless this whole set up is. Clearly your ex is attempting to relive her youth through your daughter.

By dating the same guys and swapping over, she thinks that she’s still ‘one of the girls’. Pathetic.

Obviously, you can’t forbid your daughter from socialising with her own mum, but you can offer her an alternative lifestyle. You can keep telling her that she’s loved and cherished and worth more than this.

Take her under your wing and play a more active role in her life.

No good

I constantly worry that I’m not good enough. I’m not a smart enough parent, partner, daughter or employee. I get nervous about everything from speaking to other members of staff to dealing with paperwork.

People tell me that I’m efficient and organised, but I hate how I look and constantly think that I’m rubbish.

My bloke says he loves me, but how do I know he’s telling the truth?

JANE SAYS: I can absolutely assure you that you are not alone because all of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The trick is to appear confident and get through each day the best you can.

Life is all about juggling, and I’m sure you’re doing brilliantly, but don’t be too proud to start saying ‘no’ too. Appreciate all the great things in your life and give yourself a break.