‘I paid tons of to bonk two sisters and their mum – they even had their very own card reader’

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Serious bender

I’m a selfish, idiotic fool – and I hate myself.

A few weeks ago, my mum got remarried and I made a spectacle of myself at her wedding.

I got drunk before the service and continued to binge drink all day. I told my Mum that I despised her new husband; that he was limp and pathetic. She burst into tears. I told my sister that she looked like a hooker and blasted my brother for being mean with money (because he refused to give me £5,000 in February).

Then I went on a serious bender. I ordered a cab and went into the city. I hooked up with a mate I used to work with.

We drank shots and generally misbehaved. We went to a lap dancing club where I blew a fortune on private dances. Around midnight my mate said he knew of a sex party. We took another cab to the suburbs where we paid £200 to enter an anonymous looking house.

I had a threesome with two sisters and then one of them invited me to pleasure their 60-year-old mother for an additional £50. She even had her own card reader.

It was completely mad.

I ended up spending over £1,000 in one, lost weekend. Now I’m beginning to come back down to earth and feel terrible. My siblings are refusing to speak to me. My mother is beyond furious. How could I have behaved so badly? What was I playing at? The fact is that my real dad and I had a terrible relationship. He died when I was 20. I was a nightmare child and teenager. Dad and I fought all the time. But underneath it all I suppose that I did love him, only we were very different people.

Let’s just say that everything was complicated and I’m really confused about how I feel right now. I’ve given up drink.

JANE SAYS: What’s most important is that you’re on the way back to sobriety. Hopefully, your darkest days are behind you, and this is the start of a new beginning.

Try not to let regrets overwhelm you. People deal with stress in different ways. Some folk go into themselves and struggle to surface. Others – like you – let rip and go wild. Endeavour to park the past, learn from your mistakes and accept that you’ve come through a storm – and survived. I strongly suggest that, when the dust has settled, that you ask your family for a round-table meeting. Perhaps if you could call a truce – and emphasise that you’re truly sorry and contrite – then the healing process can begin.

Always remember that you can check out CRUSE Bereavement Care (www.cruse.org.uk) for support regarding your father’s passing and the unique and complicated relationship you had with him.

Ultimately you need to start forgiving yourself while taking responsibility for your actions.

Look, we all mess up from time-to-time, but the trick is not repeating the same mistakes.

Avoid booze, avoid people who are likely to lead you astray and never forget that your family love and support you. Remember that are not a lost cause and that you deserve to be loved and forgiven.

Greedy guts

My partner has an addictive personality. He constantly swaps one addiction for another. He swore off alcohol in 2016 and started running marathons. He was obsessed with improving his personal best. Then he hurt his knee and had to give it up.

Now he’s a ‘foodie’ and his new passion is all consuming. If he’s not shopping and testing recipes, then he’s twittering on about ingredients.

I’m pleased that he’s busy and sober, but very bored with his sole topic of conversation. I dread to think what might be next.

JANE SAYS: Ask your chap to see things from your point of view. Tell him that you’re delighted that he’s got a new interest but constantly going on about ANY subject gets boring in the end. Could he calm down and change the subject? If this hobby really is taking off, then perhaps he could think about making some money out of it? Is there a career change in the air or a business opportunity in any of this?

As for his next passion; you’ll just have to hold your breath and see where the fancy takes him next. Maybe you could do something interesting and challenging together? It’s important that his hobbies remain affordable and that your home doesn’t get overtaken by stuff. Put your foot down if he starts to overwhelm the place with vinyl, books, cycling equipment, etc.

Scally wags

A neighbour is complaining about my children behind my back. She’s mouthing off about them being badly behaved and out of control. What gets me is that she’s a nice as pie to my face but constantly tells another friend that I’m a bad mother. I’m keen to confront her but my partner tells me to keep my cool. He says that if she has a problem with us, then she knows where to find us. But I hate living like this. I’m the first to admit that my kids aren’t perfect, but who is? I don’t recognise the scally wags she describes.

JANE SAYS: Could this spiteful neighbour be jealous of you? Does she have personal issues within the home of her own?Are you sure that you can trust your go-between mate? Could it be that she’s deliberately making stuff up or putting you at odds with this other mother? Think about it. I’m inclined to side with your partner who suggests doing nothing in the short term. If, sadly, it does turn out that your children have been acting inappropriately, then you’ll have to deal with it. You’ll have to take them back to basics and discuss appropriate behaviour and being respectful.

Bitter revenge

My ex-boyfriend is angry because I won’t give him any money. He is spreading rumours saying that I’m frigid and useless in bed. He’s angry because I’ve inherited £10,000 from my late grandmother.

Why should I give him anything? Yes, he and I were together for many years, but I dumped him because he cheated on me. I’d like to date his best mate.

JANE SAYS: Your ex-boyfriend is clearly miffed that he’s not enjoying your windfall, but that doesn’t give him the right to insult you. Finally tell him to leave you alone or you may be forced to speak to a solicitor about your reputation.

As for dating his mate; forget it, there are plenty of other people out there. Why stay in the same circle? Spread your wings.