‘I snuck off for soiled orgasm-filled weekend with colleague whereas my bloke lay in hospital’
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Fun and filth
A few weeks ago, I snuck off with a colleague to a ‘conference’ – aka a dirty weekend of sex and booze in a classy hotel.
We enjoyed two amazing nights of fun and filth.
Just before driving home, I turned on my phone to a stack of missed calls. My bloke had fallen over and was in hospital. I raced to his bedside where his sister hissed: “Where were you?”
Now my bloke is on the mend and I feel terrible, especially as my so-called lover has blabbed to everyone at work about our saucy weekend of orgasms and Orvieto. I’m worried that I may lose my reputation and my job too. My whole life is falling down around my ears.
JANE SAYS: Tell your colleague/lover that you can never date him again and concentrate on helping your boyfriend to a speedy recovery. Throw yourself into being useful with kind words and helpful deeds.
However, once he’s back on his feet again, you will need to start talking to your boyfriend about the state of your relationship. You will have to confess to your fling. Why did you go on that weekend with your lover in the first place? It might be that you and your guy don’t have a long-term future together.
As for your colleague/ex-lover; he needs to understand that you will not be bought down by this. Yes, you made a big mistake by going away with him but you’re not a source of gossip; a figure of fun – and life needs to move on.
Whatever it takes
My boyfriend wants me to get money off my parents. He doesn’t care what I say – that I’m ill or in debt – he just needs me to secure £5,000 immediately.
I’m quite superstitious and feel awkward about lying and tempting fate. My guy loves his holidays and wants us to visit Greece with a group of mates in August. He’s not working but is determined to keep up the pretense that he’s earning as much as them.
It’s only my salary keeping us afloat. I’m paying all the bills and giving him pocket money – and now this.
JANE SAYS: Lying to your parents, to get money, is not the way forward. He’s being unrealistic if he thinks that he can carry on with his old habits, when the money isn’t there.
Put your foot down, because you’re the only one pulling in any income right now. Make it clear that you don’t care about his friends or his image when there are everyday bills to be paid. What is HE going to do about earning some cash and pulling his weight?
Do you really need this jerk hanging around your neck and dragging you down? Don’t you deserve better?
She’s bewitched
I don’t see what my Mum sees in her new boyfriend. He’s arrogant and rude. I can’t stand to be in the same room as him as he’s argumentative and confrontational.
I don’t believe that he’s capable of making Mum happy. Even my 6ft 2in boyfriend stays away from him because he gives him the creeps.
JANE SAYS: This is tricky, especially if your mum is currently besotted with this person.
Does she have a best friend or relative whom she respects and listens to? Can you get them to drum some sense into her? Keep telling your mum that you love her and that you’re always there for her. She’s not trapped in this situation.
There is always a way out. She must contact you, a friend and the police if ever she feels in danger. She cannot allow her pride, or fear of what people might think, to stop her from speaking up and reaching out.
